Hi Josiah, thanks for reading. I love men and think you are all wonderful. I also think mutual respect and consent is wonderful. I don't think I mention the expectations you feel and have listed here, but I see and appreciate your frustration with the process and social norms. My "why" is for love, and experiencing fellow humans as the marvels they are honestly. Take care, I know it can be repeatedly rough out there, but I hope you stay open to the growth and blessings that can arise.